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Here you will find an ongoing 'Interview'-style question & answer

mostly for personal inquiries about me and my life/world/fun

but also questions of an 'expertise' nature.

Feel free to submit all questions anonymously and I'll get to it ASAP. 

How many inquiries a day do you get?

How do you approach selecting people?

Most days somewhere in the arena of 300 emails, messages etc reach me.

Of these maybe 100 are people I've never heard from. Of these perhaps

half are serious inquiries. Of those half are...inappropriate. Of the half

that are appropriate, half seem awesome to me! Of that 15 or so I choose

1-4 who seem sweet, kind, fun and potential long-term kinship. I do this

for fun not money so it's important that I actually LIKE someone and

WANT to be physical with them. I would never ever see someone I felt

no attraction to or who didn't excite me.

I will (logically) opt to see someone who prepays over someone who

does not, someone without facial hair over someone who does,

someone who is excited by the same things that excite me.

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Are you thinking of retiring?

Yes. I don't consider what I do

work at all but this past year

COVID took so much fun out of

it that it'll be JULY before I can

make a reasonable assessment

as to whether or not it's time to

find some other adventure. I

am an author, DJ, painter,

traveler/adventurer so I have a

rich life, but I'd still need some-

thing erotic to gratify that

element of my life/psyche/ID.

HAVE YOU TURNED PEOPLE

AWAY AT THE DOOR?

6 TIMES altogether. If someone

shows up and I even SUSPECT

they are drunk, high, sick, weird,

dangerous, lying, dirty etc...I

politely end the session before it

even begins. This is SOP for me.

I don't take risks...this is supposed

to be FUN! 

STILL NOT CLEAR ON YOUR

'POLY' STATUS. Explain plz?

I had a husband until this past

FEBRUARY at which point he

passed away from a brain tumor.

I have 2 wives (3 others by asso-

ciation), 3 GFs, a BF and of course

I'm free to date or marry anyone

else I like. In a POLY scenario

everyone is aware of and happy

with everyone else's EVERYONE

ELSE. So one of my wives has

4 other wives, several BFs and

was 'married' to my dearly-

departed simultaneously to me.

Spouses, BFs/GFs, significant

others etc come and go, some-

times live together for days weeks

or months before switching

homes/fellow S.O.'s. There are

no secrets, no cheating, no lies.

Everyone has several major

relationships with people who

have the same. Everyone gives

and gets what they need...but

no longer from a SINGLE person.

Which is insane, cruel and im-

possible. It requires maturity.

WHY HAVEN'T YOU HAD A

MMF 3SOME YET?

So many have asked about this

I better get around to it now.

I know it might seem strange to

some people who don't know

me that given all the sex I've had

I would have done this by now.

Nope. It's not that I haven't had

thousands of opportunities, it's

just that when hubby was alive

we agreed we wanted it to be as

exciting and perfect as possible.

This requires finding the right 2

males. They need to be comfy

with one another, and they need

to be...predictable. Safe. When

men get together in various

circumstances they can be the

sweetest people in the world until

there are other males there to...

create a mob-mentality. Suddenly

Mr SweetiePie is turning into a

rowdy, aggressive, high-fiving

scumbag who...god-knows! what

they are capable of. This factor

needs to be reduced. When this

happens I'll be thrilled to have my

first experience. 

WHAT'S YOUR BIGGEST

TURN-ON?

 

The area of this site that was

originally designed for and

addressed my turn-ons has gone

the way of the DODO along with

other elements so I can update

my answers because life changes.

People change. Evolve. As there

is money involved I don't make

a chief goal of mine getting off

myself. So 99% of playmates

don't care what my turn-ons are

-- especially because they don't

relate to them individually.

So if you want...anyone who

goes to the trouble of asking

me on KIK before hand and then

sticks to their plan and succeeds

gets a 100% FREEBIE! I'm saying

this because so far no one has.

No one has really even tried.

WHY DON'T YOU WATCH

THE CLOCK LIKE OTHERS DO?

I DO THIS FOR FUN not money.

It's never been about money.

All my VIPs have not been charged

a dime in 3 years (because they

respect me enough to ensure I'm

not left empty-handed and I give

them the respect of trusting them.

When everyone is given and

gives respect, we all win!

Money isn't a discussion issue.

Obviously I do pay attention to it

somewhat but yes mostly I don't

watch it unless I have a really

tight schedule.

WHERE IS THE VIP area?

Offsite. 4 years ago I moved it to

the same place PIRATEBAY has

stowed itself in the past. It is

accessible to those playmates

who see me regularly enough,

show interest in me and my life

as a whole, chat me on KIK and

have similar sexual enthusiasm.

WHO DO YOU BLOCK/NOT

EVEN CONSIDER?

A potential playmate can expect

a non-reply, a polite brush-off

or a permanent block when he

does any number of things.

The list seems endless!

People who put me in a red-

light guarded state start their

interaction with me with

"Available?" or "Services

please..." or saying something

crude/vulgar. Non-coopera-

tion to protocols, hagglers,

pic-hunters. Men specifically

need to understand that it's

obvious when someone's not

really serious. Years of exper!

WHY DON'T YOU USE A

PSEUDO OR HIDE YOUR FACE?

As I've said many times, I love

what I do and actually think it's

something to BRAG about! I think

what I do is awesome and there's

absolutely no shame at all --

quite the contrary! No one in my

life is kept in the dark about

my sexuality or any other part of

my life. When I was 19 I made a

decision that anyone who would

have issue with my sexuality was

no longer welcome in my life.

Friends, family...everyone.

I became immediately liberated

and have lived free of any/all

'hiding' ever since. I'm having

a fantastic time without anyone

to look at me sideways.

WHY ARE YOUR PRICES SO LOW?

 

Again, the money is tertiary

at best. This is supposed to be fun!

I'm not a party girl. I watch 70s

saturday cartoons, LEAVE IT TO

BEAVER before bed, don't smoke,

drink, do drugs, no tattoos etc.

I'm not really 'the type' at all!

So as long as playmates are

sweet, considerate, respectful

and we have FUN, the numbers

themselves aren't so important.

I'm very well-off so I can be

choosey, based on my mood,

time of day, day of the week,

do I have other people hanging

out with me, weather. I can be

capricious. With so much other

living/responsibilities/adven-

tures...sometimes I just set it

aside for days, even weeks.

HOW CAN I MAKE SURE YOU

THINK I'M AWESOME?

Take the time to really read my

site, be fun, funny and -- most

importantly -- find out what

drives ME CRAZY and have fun

with it yourself. A great review

is always good and yes, showing

up with a gift card etc demon-

strates you understand I've

already 1) cut my rates...3 times!

2) Am absorbing or paying for

things gentlemen USED to

pay for (so much for gallantry),

3) You're getting someone who

actually ENJOYS herself rather

faking it/putting on a show.

The best start is taking time to

sit at your desktop/laptop/IPAD

(not phone) and really find out

who I am.

WHAT'S UP WITH THE

RACIAL LIMITATIONS

It's not racism specifically.

I simply have had more than

50% of my playmates belong to

INDIAN, MIDDLE-EASTERN and

other brown ethnicities. I still

see people who are not white

but I am limiting, otherwise all

my playmates will be...not white.

It's just a selection strategy.

At least half my current play-

mates are not white.

WHAT'S YOUR POLICY ON

SEEING COUPLES?

Unfortunately, when seeing more

than one person at a time --

regardless of who they are or

may be (good or bad) you're

still talking about two people, not

one. So yes while women are

100% free of any charges, couples

have a specific protocol I use:

I see both separately first

(whether we have fun or not)

and then the couple together.

It's not always agreeable but there

are obvious reasons.

WHO IS SCARLET CARSON

She is my 'alter-ego' designed

for safe-distance fun and for

extra perks/play for those who

have earned such privileges.

I did have another ALTER

I called TRIX but I wrapped

that up in November and

won't be doing it again.

HOW HONEST CAN I BE ABOUT

MY SEXUAL TASTES? 

100% I've heard and seen it

all and there's nothing more

annoying than a potential

playmate who beats around

the bush...it's important to

not panic about disclosing

your twists no matter how

depraved others might see

them...I'm better than a priest

that way...don't hold back!

WHAT'S A CAMJAM?

Under typical circumstance I

turn on a cam or two or three

like so many do, only in my case

it's to allow welcomed playmates

to watch myself and others just

hang-out, watch a movie, listen

to music, chat about life, ask

questions and, yes, have some

sexy fun for those watching to

enjoy. This can be KIK video,

FACETIME or other video that

allows for this sort of socializing.

I've done this in my GTA and

L.A. homes, while on vacation

in hotels and out gallivanting

around valleys, mountains,

beaches, bridges and every

where else my life takes me!

CAMJAMS are fun, usually last

1-3 hours and so far have

always gone superbly!

How long does it take me to finish my daily WHIMS.
I'll post the reply in the Q/A area as well but it seemed logical
to put it here. So here ya go! I spend about 30-40 mins a day posting my BLOG
but all the components, ideas, the continuity of images, metaphors, music,
constituents themselves etc...I don't do it home anywhere near a computer.
Walking, riding, sailing in the summer and so on...I get inspirations and then...
10 mins here, 15 mins there...I revisit them and consider all the choreography
needed to compile, compose and correlate, so that by the time I sit down to
get it done...I've got a pretty dazzling symphony of this-n-that all planned.
In total about 2 hrs goes into it, just broken up into pieces that cohere...
I hope...quite well! Having a dozen HDs full of photos/video from my travels
and adventures doesn't hurt; but it's not always easy to find things!
I do as much as 2/3 of the posting itself outdoors on my IPAD PRO using
ANYDESK which also allows me to DJ 2 radio stations from the boat or
beach or taxi if I so choose. I have some eye issues so I can't be sitting at
a desk looking at a screen very long. I was taught how to do all this and now
feel like I'm really pulling it together and cumming into my own.
Hope that answers your question!

WHAT ARE YOUR A-LIST

PLAYMATES PAYING?

Since I do this for fun and

not money, I have what

doctors call a 'sliding scale'.

It's important that people

get what they need. Those

with the $3000-$5000/hr

to spend, do so without

qualms, while people who

do not have that sort of

budget can pay as $99/hh

Celebs have no ethical

issue with this equation.

WHAT DEFINES

'A REGULAR'

TWICE/MONTH for two

months min. At this point

a playmate qualifies for

contests etc...

WHAT's YOUR CANCEL-

LATION POLICY?

Unfortunately, 'hobbyists'

are NOTORIOUS for this

bad habit and taking not

only their own time flip-

pantly, but also others'.

As most people know, un-

like other girls, this is not

'my job/career'. For me it

is FUN and something I

get a great deal of plea-

sure from doing. Anything

and everything that dimin-

ishes that FUN is, for me,

unacceptable. I'm not in

a position of needing to

accept such problems.

If someone treats me

badly, I simply wish them

well and move on, no loss

to me whatsoever. I have

an insanely busy life if I

so choose to dive into my

various BUSY-MAKING

friends, novel-writing,

painting, hiking, sailing,

DJing 2 radio stations

and so much else!

If someone cancels...it's

done. The end. I simply

do not see them again.

If they're a first-timer...

oh hell yes...DONE.

If I've seen them 10 times

or more without any late-

ness or cancellations, I

will likely let it slide.

BUT EVERY CANCELLA-

TION must be rectified by

the playmate compensa-

ting for the lost hour.

If the playmate is NOT

in this 10-times standing

ANY and ALL chance of

getting into my good

graces requires:

1) Compensation for the

hour

2) Compensation for the

hour before AND the

hour after as the cancel-

lation likely means anyone

who wanted one of those

hours DID NOT get it

because of the time

allotted to the one who

cancelled.

3) A sincere apology that

includes recognition of

exactly what was done

(as most DO NOT really

understand how rude and

disrespectful it is).

4) PRE-PAID time for the

first following 3 sessions

 

It should be understood

that the real cost of the

cancellation is the cost to

my faith in my fellow man

and that is PRICELESS.

I'm a happy, hopeful per-

son and I'd like to preserve

that innocence. People who

do not value that shouldn't

be seeing me anyhow...

they should find someone

jaded, cynical and morose

like themselves!

(see right for follow-up) ==>

HOW DID YOU BECOME

A P.A. to begin with??

I've told this so many time

now...it's like someone

asking you how you broke

your leg...by the 100th per-

son you're ready to squeal!

This will be my final time.

When I was in college,

Daniel was lecturing at my

school and I was one of

many who were dazzled

and hung around in a

cluster waiting for a chance

to talk more directly with

him. I gave him my email

and, after emailing, we

chatted directly and hit it

off. I was anxious to flee

pre-med and live a real

life. In the span of two

months I had been moved

to Florida where I was

living in Britney's condo,

then flown to CALI where,

again, put up in a celeb's

'away' home. Then I was

flown to HAWAII where 

Daniel arrived from CHINA

& Taiwan where he was....

well...not important...I be-

came a P.A. and 'nanny'

overnight to justify my VISA

and from there...life & love

ensued. Since then, I've

sung on dozens of songs

you've heard, helped mix

music on the board, taken

the helm of the INDIE

record label (now dissolved

due to his death) and...of

course...became............

entangled (deliciously) in

the lives of numerous

celebs via that first chat.

Who could have ever pre-

dicted!? WOW! Seems a

whole other lifetime ago!

I'M NOT SURE I'M UNDER-

STANDING WHO THESE

NAMES/PEOPLE ARE

YOU REFER TOO ALL

OVER YOUR BLOG...?

It's always a challenge for

people to digest the POLY

life and to process all the

names/references...esp

since JAN when I removed

30% of the site to start

fresh and am still dealing

with that. REGAN & BRIT

are my two wives. 'D.'

(or Daniel) was my hubby

for 10+ years and died

FEB 12, 2020, RIEL is a

current boyfriend (I'm

open to other dating

once COVID is kaput),

Riel has another GF and

she, in turn has another

BF. Regan has a BF and

another GF. Brit has 3

wives, a BF and a

"beard". They, in turn,

have their own secon-

dary and tertiary signif-

icant others (or S.O.s).

I'd love to get married

again to a cool man but

most men don't do well

with sharing! These

people (as well as other

names/friends/lovers)

do come up frequently

so you'll now have some

idea if they do!

RE: CANCELLATIONS --

WHAT IF I HAVE A VALID

REASON FOR CANCELLING??

Shrug. Meh. I may be

innocent but that doesn't

mean I'm not aware that

8/10 cancellations are

LYING about their reason

hoping that somehow my

sweetness will reply, "Oh!

that's terrible! Well by all

means you have to

be with your dying friend/

redo your homework after

your dog ate it/get well/

fix your wrecked car..."

Shrug. Meh. True or not...

people have been incon-

venienced. We all must

take responsibility for our

actions and all events --

even those beyond our

control have consequen-

ces. Other people should

not need to pay for your

bad decisions or just

FATE/CAPRICE picking

on you. You're not being

punished, I just have to

protect myself & others

If there's a second

cancellation...there's

no reprieve for anyone

no matter who they are.

WHAT's GHOSTING?

 

Possibly, the worst thing

playmate can do without

being in the house.

If someone contacts me

and then VANISHES with-

out so much as a lame

excuse...DONE, DONE

and DONE. It actually

amazes me how many

MEN in particular do

this...and then POP back

up later like nothing ever

happened. The AUDA-

CITY -- the temerity!

WOW!

WHAT's THE WORST

THING SOMEONE CAN

DO IN YOUR HOUSE?

Humans are...infinitely

capable of everything you

can imagine. Good man-

ners have deteriorated

for decades now and

it's impossible to list or

weight the possibilities.

Rule #1 in my home is...

JUST DON'T BE PRE-

SUMPTUOUS about

your rights/freedoms.

Treat my home like I

would treat yours or

any others' home...

As though you are a

guest in a 10-year

sanctuary/sanctum

where life/love has

built a sense of safety

and haven. Pretend it's

your grandmothers

home and you're 9yo.

You'll be fine!

ATM/BLOG COMMENTS

QUESTIONS/REPLIES

Why did you stop blogging

as heavily/regularly in MAY?

When Covid hit, my VIPS and reg-

ulars hit my blog heavy. My traf-

fic tripled and then boomed

from 8000 visitors/day to 20,000!

So I stepped up. With a cpl hours

more effort I was able to amp up

the blog considerably. I was trying

to give people a little fun/sexy

haven to spend time in. I star-

ted making original videos and

adding tons of music, movies &

other amusements. In April I dis-

covered 90% of what I had been

doing was being ignored by

90% of my visitors. So I asked

100 or so for feedback....

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