If it interests you...here you can observe the compass by which I navigate my life -- my philosophies and belief systems upon which I mostly live. I've traveled a great deal and met a vast array of people and changed my ideas very radically many times about many things, so my brain is not hardwired to one strict concept of anything. I've been turned 180 degrees more than once on serious matters; and I hope that, as I age, I continue to embrace wisdom and anything that might change my mind on any particular matter, rather than simply fossilize myself merely because it was my earliest exposure to something.
It's not meant to be a narcissistic diatribe, just a simple means for those who may want to know me a bit more intimately to do so.
FAMILY & FRIENDS
People who say you can't choose your family are delusional.
There may be nothing more destructive to us as a species than
remaining in family circles where people often become too comfortable
damaging one another with impunity.
Not every family is toxic and not every relationship in a family
is toxic but chances are, when you've been living with one another since birth,
everyone's likely taking one another
for granted and a sort of sickness can develop.
You can absolutely choose your family even if you can't choose your blood.
The healthiest thing I ever did was leave behind everyone
I knew before the age of 19 when I flew off to China.
Of course, I do miss my family sometimes, but it's a 'missing' people
I wanted and needed them to be, not the people they actually were.
The people they actually were did me little or no good.
In an ideal (or at least reasonable) world, mothers, fathers
and siblings ought to be a positive influence,
encouraging and reinforcing the best of us.
The family I CHOSE may not be blood but, for the most part, it has taught
and strengthened me.
Friendship is so much more complicated.
I have never gotten along with girls for the most part.
Recently I scrubbed every female from my Twitter that
I wasn't friends with offline, or wasn't a playmate (approx 200) because,
as is the custom with other girls,
what ugliness goes on behind the scenes
is simply just too depressing and it darkens me.
Everyone knows what I'm talking about --
all the negative crap just gets too much for me.
Sometimes the only way to steer out of the storm is to steer away
from what's making it rain.
If I were meaner and less "fluffy", I might fair better but...
I like being "fluffy".
The handful of friends I have, tend to be more positive, like myself,
and they subscribe to the same
ideas I have about monogamy, so we're playmates as well as friends
and we enjoy each other's men and
enjoy watching one another with each other's men.
Hanging out is sexy as well as encouraging.
I rate loyalty high on my moral scale. I commit to my friends like
I commit to all things.
I've driven 4 hours at 3am because a friend was sad and needed someone.
I don't lend money I only give it away.
I'll defend a friend to the destruction of another relationship
if they're in the right.
There's not much a friend could ask me to do I wouldn't do.
I'd help bury a body if asked.
Over the years I've had friendships that seemed fine until I
stepped back and realized they
weren't so I police the nature of my friendships pretty closely now.
Like family, friendships can become unhealthy and, like a rabid dog,
you gotta put it down,
even if it is a tear-jerker like Old Yeller.
It's important for us all to have a strong maternal and paternal
figure in our lives but it needn't beour actual blood mother/fathers,
just as it's great to have siblings that needn't share our DNA.
Men and women obviously have different ideas about what constitutes
a friend but it certainly makes iteasier to shore-up a friendship when
there's less jealousy and envy around.
I like to think of my playmates as friends; and surely I built
THE ROSE as a way of you
getting to know me a bit better without spending the time we have
together necessarily doing that.
I couldn't imagine having a friend I couldn't make out with.
Seems like a weird notion.
Some people need to make sex mean something romantic.
That seems strange to me.
There's so much I could say about family I won't say because
it's moot to some degree
but I do think that it would be fabulous if we all felt a lot more like family.
Racism, politics and hundreds of others ideas get in the way of
us liking one anotherlet alone feeling like family.
Because I'm "fluffy" I gravitate to movies and books where
-- as a species -- we overcome
the trivialities that divide us and find a means
to uniting without distinctions.
But then some asshole waiter cops an attitude or some whackjob in the
street just up-n-accosts you
for no reason and the next thing you know all the "fluffy" gets sucked
out the hatch of the plummeting airplane we call civility.
Now you're desperately clutching at your chute readied to jump.
I don't know why people would rather cling to preferences than other people.
The friends and family I've chosen around me make me
stronger than I could ever be alone.
I am so grateful to have that.
For whatever time we share,
I like to think I try to extend some of that to you.